The First Key
The First Key to solving your relationship problems is to recognize them. Of course, this seems self-evident. Relationship issues stare us in the face all of the time. Perhaps it’s the cold shoulder, the lack of warmth, touch or simple conversation. Does one of you nag while the other slips away from important conversations? It’s hard to escape seeing these issues.
Yet, I’m reminded of a couple who were always bickering. Nothing he said was right, nothing she did was good enough. They even argued over what kind of toilet paper to get and which way to put it on the toilet paper roll; up or down.
They just couldn’t get along at all. Seems like it was always that way. But it wasn’t.
A few years back he, Mort, had an affair. It lasted several years before Sheila, his wife found out. Not wanting to destroy their family he decided to end the affair -she decided to stay in the marriage. They both wanted to make it work.
Believing that she was ‘doing the right thing’ she decided to forgive him. Unfortunately, that meant that she did not have a chance to fully feel and release all the emotions involved in a betrayal of trust; they did not have an opportunity to find out what went wrong between them that influenced the affair and she did not feel heard by him, missing out on the heart to heart connection that is absolutely essential in creating trust in a thriving and exciting marriage. He missed out on her authentic forgiveness and a deeper understanding of why he fell into an affair.
All that hurt, pain and confusion kept seeping out anyway in anger, impatience, and in emotional and physical distancing. What they didn’t realize is that Forgiveness is the end result of a process over time, not a moral high ground we can reach in a moment. That can only happen through awareness, not avoidance.
If this reminds you of a difficulty within your relationship, know that it can be transformed, connection restored, and intimacy regained. With ‘The Relationship Rescue System’ couples report that they’re falling in love again.
“Working with Carol has saved me, and as a result has restored the love and acceptance to my marriage of 33 years. She has a calming presence about her that creates a space safe for emotional
vulnerability that sets the stage for powerful healing. She is like the Mom you always wished you had- someone who makes you comfortable enough to admit what you are doing to undermine your relationships, and who offers a gentle suggestion or two on how you might approach things differently. She uses story, dialog, skill building and probing questions, she challenges perspectives and bares her own vulnerabilities to lead you on a path of self-discovery- all at a pace that doesn’t feel threatening.”
– Tanya P.
To rescue your relationship or find answers to vital questions such as, “Can this relationship be saved?” call Rev Carol Baxter today, (772) 359-8924.
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