The difference between
Love and ROMANCE
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Q. What’s the difference between Love and Romance?
A. Romance.
Love is a feeling. It is a profoundly tender, affectionate feeling for another person.
Romance means to court or woo with ardor. Romance is a verb; it means to take action, to energetically, creatively, and continuously express your love and woo your partner.
So, in order to continue to be in LOVE, you must have ROMANCE.
To Romance Your Partner you must give your partner and your relationship attention. You do this when you strive to be the best partner you can be by taking 100% responsibility for your outcomes in the relationship.
Each day you have opportunities to make your partner happy. It’s through everyday actions that you express your love and show the value you place on your relationship.
Do something every day to make your marriage the best marriage possible.
THE RELATIONSHIP JOURNAL
The Relationship Journal, from The Relationship Coaching Institute, is one Strategy that can take your relationship from roommates to soul-mates, from expired to inspired.
The Relationship Journal will help you discover, communicate and address needs, issues and goals.
You can do this at home, on vacation, anytime and anywhere.
Here’s how this works.
Step 1: Purchase one or two blank books or spiral notebooks.
Step 2: Schedule at least 30 minutes for this process. Most couples find that a dedicated weekly Relationship Journaling Time works well. When there are more serious issues try three times a week or consult with a relationship coach.
Agree on a time and place.
Step 3: Don’t wait for your partner to remember or initiate. When the time comes, drop whatever else you are doing and create an “intimate space.” You must make your relationship your priority.
Step 4: Make your entry in the Relationship Journal. You can also write in your journal at any time as it occurs to you.
Do not read your partner’s entry
until you have finished yours.
Suggested Entry #1: What do you appreciate about your partner today?
Suggested Entry#2:
What issues are you aware of in your relationship today?
Suggested Entry#3: What needs can you identify that you are experiencing in your relationship today?
Suggested Entry #4:
What did you do today (or recently) to improve your relationship?
Suggested Entry #5: Reflect upon your last sexual experience and identify what you liked and what you want to do differently next time.
Step 5: When you are both finished, read each other’s entry. Ask clarifying question with compassionate curiosity.
Step 6: Start by acknowledging your partner’s appreciations, then make sure each issue has a matching need identified; if not, assist your partner to identify what unmet need is underlying their issue.
Step 7: Discuss the needs one by one. Negotiate. Brainstorm. Be open and flexible with your outcomes and find the win-win solution.
Step 8: Record agreements/solutions in your Relationship Journals.
✓ Positive ✓ Measurable ✓ Specific
- All needs are valid.
- Assume a solution exists & be creative!
Step 9: Keep all agreements!
Step 10: Create a Closing Ritual
Your relationship is a reflection of the time and attention you give to it and your partner.
Wishing you much love,
Coach Carol
Happy Valentine’s Day!